Some say, "in a marriage, you have to meet in the middle." You think it may be easy to adjust to someone you love and plan to live with. Negative!

Some couples argue more after marriage because it is difficult to comprehend the fact that people don't change to please the one they love. People don't change, they adjust.

Now, I'm speaking in terms of "cleaning." For instance, if your man doesn't pick up after himself when he eats dinner, he probably won't start if he hasn't done so for the past 20-30 years. Also, if you're used to cleaning at a certain time, don't expect him to do the same. Men think differently; they focus on what pleases them first before they begin to do something that's a hassle. They'll go play golf or pc games before remotely stepping into the kitchen or bathroom to clean even if he hears loud clamps or thick porcelain plates hitting the top of the counters; they just won't! They will not consider helping you if they have something better to do.

So how do you make him help? You don't. Help yourself. Throw his laundry in his office or his side of the bed so that he can get annoyed by it. Separate your dishes from his but be careful, they may sit there for a while, but the next time he wants dinner, let him know that it won't be done until the dishes are washed. That may teach him a lesson.

If for some reason you want something done, tell him and then make a note of it if he doesn't do it. I know that sounds lame but try it. Friday's are usually slacker days for men. Leave the note in his wallet or on his desk Thursday night or Friday morning, and let him be aware of the fact that you've been waiting for this to get done. He'll appreciate a letter more than a demand during the week when his mind is somewhere else.

Now, I'm not speaking of ALL men, I'm just saying most. Once again, it's not about changing, it's about adjusting. You'll need to adjust to his lifestyle as he adjusts to yours. It's not always going to be fun but don't make a fuss about it - let it be known, move on, let him see how much you do without saying a word and he'll eventually come around.